31 Januari

Yakk!!sekarang lah...harinya dimana semua thesis musti dan kudu dikumpul.

Apalagi buat major PR , satu2nya major yang un-extend-able($%##!!*&^!@!)

Anyhoo, kita sekelas udah sepakat kalo hari ini *brugg* ga ada yg dateng ngumpulin ke kampus...Hoahahahahaha

biarin aja pada pusing nyariin

Hospitality*: Are We Really That Nice?

“Orang Indonesia itu ramah, sopan, dan gemar menolong sesama”

(Indonesians are nice, courteous, and helpful)

At the age of 6, I was taught that it was a custom for Indonesians to act warm and nice at each other. “Hospitality is our specialty and uniqueness as Indonesians”, as my 1st elementary grade teacher would say, “We are nice to each other. We greet others warmly. We help those in need. We say thank you to other people.”

As if it was a mutual agreement among all elementary teachers in Indonesia (or probably it was a coincidence that I met people whose teachers taught same things like my teacher did), all the people I asked confirmed that at least there was one teacher or parent saying that Indonesians appreciate hospitality more than any other society.

As Durkheim had mentioned, since society could not exist without a minimal agreement on rights and wrongs, Indonesian society has this collective agreement on how to act ‘right’ towards other people, which is ‘to act nice’.

It means that, from the perspective of sociology, hospitality can be seen as a cultural norm or value that people learned from their predecessor (teachers or parents) through language and communication.
With all the dos and don’ts about hospitality that we have learned, there shouldn’t be any problems about our actions and attitudes regarding hospitality. If there was any competition regarding hospitality, Indonesians should have won easily, since (positive) hospitality is a part of our culture.

Amazingly, we are not that nice.

A study being done by Reader’s Digest showed that the courtesy** level for Indonesian people living in Jakarta was placed on the 29th rank out of 35.
This study measures the courtesy level of respondents living in the big cities worldwide through 3 (three) behavioral test
1. A test that would asses whether one would hold back the door to be opened for other people coming after.
2. A test that would asses whether one would help other people whose papers were scattered on the street.
3. A test that would asses whether a seller would say “thank you” after having a transaction with the buyer.
On the first test, 70% percent of the respondents let the door slammed on the face of the people coming after them, while for the second test, only 20% of respondents who would help others whose papers were scattered on the street. Quite a relief, Indonesian sellers in Jakarta scored 80% for thanking their customers after transactions were made.

Responding to this study, some people said that the study took wrong place to be studied since Jakarta people were more ‘westerned’ than other places in Jakarta. Therefore, the result was bad of since Jakarta ‘westerned’ people are more individualistic compared to people living in other location***. The researchers should take Yogyakarta, Bali, Medan or Bandung as the location of the research.
From the sociological point of view, there might be a normative inconsistencies regarding hospitality in Indonesia. Even though all of us would agree that Indonesians were (supposed to be) nice, there had been a major violation towards hospitality culture based on the study.

The main reason why normative inconsistencies might occur is, people are expected to have the normative permission to save their own lives, even if it means to violate another norm.

In this case, since the place of the study was located in Sudirman offices area, where busy business people are coming in and out, Indonesian people might be more comfortable to let others to open the door or gather their scattered papers by themselves since it would be a ‘a waste of time’ to stop by and do courtesy things to them in need. In other words, those business people were practicing ‘saving their own lives’ actions and violating the norm of hospitality.
It may sound like an excuse, since as for me, if I was faced on the same situation (even though I was not busy), I would just slammed the door behind me and refused to help stranger with his/her scattered papers.


* Hospitality is known as the act of generously providing care and kindness to whomever is in need.

**courtesy, is a part of hospitality.

***A weak opinion, since the first 5 places where the citizens are classified as the most courteous people on earth are New York, Zurich, Swiss and Toronto, Canada, which most, if not all, of the people are western-minded. It is surprising since many people would think that people coming from Western countries are individualistic.

dysfunctionally outrageous

Tuhan, aku ga tau mau ngapain!!!!!!?!!!?!?!?!!!!
dengki iri marah sedih benci campur jadi satu

berasa organisme paling rendah di muka bumi

yang harus dikebaskan, enyahkan, usir, dan hancurkan secepat mungkin

Aku mulai egois

Mulai berpikir "Kenapa smua orang ngerasa masalahnya paling berat", padahal gw juga mikir gtu

"Kenapa harus gw yang bkorban padahal yg salah orang lain"

"kenapa GUE?!KENAPA?"

"KENAPAAAAA???!!!!!!!!"

Sudikah Kau temui aku hari ini?
Dengerin aja...dengerin...dengerin tanpa pretensi..

Aku ingin terbang ke balik stratosfer
menembus biru langit dan putih awan
menyesap sakit tak terperi
agar hilang semua rasa

Laper!

Arrrgghh, ditengah2 terpaan thesis yang mendera...serangan lapar datang tiba2.
mataku tertuju pada 5 tangkup roti, jelas bukan milikku
(tapi kok ada di rumahku?)
Relakah kau ampuni aku dari dosa kali ini Tuhan
agar kucuil selembar saja dengan rasa halal.

sumpah gw beneran lapeur

Time to be more like me..

Ternyata perut kenyang bisa bikin otak garang

Gw menemukan (kembali) ide bagus hari ini

kalo gw emang ga bisa sepinter bokap gw
secantikk nyokap gw
sesupel kakak-kakak gw

ya gapapa.

karena gw bukan bokap guah
nyokap guah
dan kakak2 guah

so, instead of trying to be like them, why not being me

Kenapa gw (dulu) suka langit malam part deux

tapi,kenapa akhirnya gw bisa ga suka langit lagi?

oke ini adalah sambungan posting sebelumnya

kenapa akhirnya gw bisa ga suka langit lagi?

well gw rasa, pada suatu malem, gw dapet kenyataan kalau bokap gw ga sesempurna yang gw pikir.

Sayangnya, seberapapun gw usaha, gw slalu dibilang turunan bokap guah.
waktu kecil gw bilang "Engga!engga!gw itu turunan nyokap guah"

tapi gw rasa gw bukan turunan siapapun

dengan gen ortu guah, harusnya gw dapet cantiknya nyokap guah dan otaknya bokap guah.

tapi entah jalan idup darimana, gw selalu merasa terasing di keluarga bokap guah yang pinteeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrr semua dan keluarga nyokap guah yang cantiiiiiiiiiiikkkkkkkk semua.

that's why i hate families

I'm sorry dad. I just can't.


oh ya kemarin gw ntn Kenapa Leonardo bukan Kejar Leonardo (siapa kejar?leonardo di caprio?)

reviewnya besok yah

Kenapa gw (dulu) suka langit malam

udah jam setengah enam. Bentar lagi gw cabut nonton Kejar Leonardo. Di TIM, tempat gw duu biasa nongkrong liat bintang di planetarium ma bokap guah sambil makan eskrim Venesia (eh apa Venetia ya).

Duu..dulu gw pecinta bintang, gw apal ratusan rasi..termasuk itu bintang masuk belahan langit musim panas, dingin, semi, apa gugur. Walopun untuk Indonesia, karena masuk garis ekuator, ya..perubahannya ga segeser negara2 4 musim.

kenapa gw (dulu) suka bintang?

tauk ya. kemungkinan besar karena bokap guah. Dia sering ngajak guah liat bintang di lapangan kosong tengah malam.

tapi ya ga juga. Waktu masi bayi, kalo gw nangis juga gw bru diem kalo udah diliatin langit malem.Liat bulan.
(masalah timbul ketika pada suatu malam gulita gw ngamuk minta dikasi bulan, padahal lagi bulan mati*)

Tapi bokap gw tau emang kalo gw suka langit. BArengan ma dia, gw nyusurin sawah jam 4 pagi cuma buat liat bintang jatuh. Setelah bintangnya ga ada kita b2 balik ke rumah buka buku, buat nyocokin rasi bintang yang kita liat sebelumnya.

bokap gw sering cerita banyak hal related to langit
kenapa kok pesawat bisa terbang?
kenapa kok zepelin pake helium?
kenapa kok helikopter mesti pake ekor?

walopun lebih banyak ga ngertinya(karena bokap slalu pake rumus. O yeah, didnt i mention he got perfect mark for Math when he got graduated from hi-skool)

tapi,kenapa akhirnya gw bisa ga suka langit lagi

nyambung dulu ya, gw brangkat ke TIM dulu liat Kejer Leonardo

*akhirnya Pak RT dateng nenangin guah, dikiranya rumah guah kerampogan

Introducing...Mulan Jameelah

ini dia nih lagu paling DAHSYADT awal Januari 2008.

kamulah makhluk tuhan
yang tercipta yang paling sexy
cuma kamu yang bisa
membuatku terus menjerit

ah..ah..ah..
ihik..ihik..ihik..
(Mulan Jameelah-"Makhluk Tuhan Yang Paling Sexy")

Buseddah, baru buka tahun aja lagunya udah bikin cowo2 berasa nonton bf

"ah..ah..ah"

serasa liat paduan suara kucing sambil kawin

tapi harus gw akuin, Ahmad Dhani bhasil bikin aransemen kucing kawin yg komersil

walo rada mirip sama Muse-The Time Is Running Out...

six weirdos living in me

sebuah tantangan dari ebi dan dinot

Each player of this game starts with 6 weird things about themselves. People who get tagged need to write a post of their own 6 weird things as well as state the rule clearly. In the end, you need to choose 6 people to be tagged and list their names. Don’t forget to leave a comment that says you are tagged in their comments and tell them to read your blog


oke, sebetulnya judul aselinya six weird things bout me. Cuman karena gw rada split personality disorder, it feels like there are six people living in me, and all of'em are totally weirdos. You catch up there, eh, boy?

Weirdo pertama,
1. Love my mum so much,I could kill her twice
gw dan nyokap gue adalah 2 insan dengan simbiosis yang aneh. I would kill other person for her, yet I could end up killing her. gw ga tau gw saking cintanya ma nyokap sampe gw benci, atau gw saking bencinya ampe gw cinta. Setau gw, nyokap gw juga susah ngrawat gw dari kecil. I was unlike other kids she knew back then.sampe2 umur gw 3 taon gw dibawa ke psikiater(nyeee...kecil2 sakit jiwa)

Weirdo kedua
2. Males, lelet, telat, ceroboh, tapi klo ngejer sesuatu bisa lupa nyawa
Basically, gw itu ga ambisius. malah mnurut salah seorang dari bbrp psikolog-psikiater yg gw temuin, gw itu sangatlah kurang jiwa kompetitifnya. Karena itulah nilai2 gw cuma sedikit diatas garis kemiskinan, males ngejer jabatan, jarang ngerjain pe-er, lebih sering procrastinating, sering ngilangin barang BUT show me an intriguing target, gw bisa lupa nyawa buat ngejernya...hujan batu pun kan kulewati.

Weirdo ketiga
3.Out-of-date or too-much-updated?
Suerdeh kalo masalah gosip, gw itu yg slalu yg paling trakhir tau. Co:
YG LAEN:"eh, eh si X jadian ma Y"
GW:"hah?bukannya X jadian ma V?"
YG LAEN:"ah telat lo, si V tuh maenmata ma si J. Lagian si V kan udah bukan anak PU lagi"
GW:"HAH?!SEJAK KAPAN?"
YG LAEN:"ya sejak main mata sama si J. Trus kan ya orang tuanya si J kan dateng ke PU, ternyata ada masalah soal keuangan, terus dia ml mr.T buat.."
GW:"J ML AMA MR.T?!"
YANG LAEN:"E-MAIL!bolot!!!"
GW:"ooo..email..eh J tuh yang mana ya?"
YG LAEN: "#$%#@!!!!"

dan seperti yang bisa lo liat, perbolotan kuping guah membantu merusak segalanya.

tapi ada juga sisi dari guah yg tkadang mbingungkan orang2 sekitar. Gw tau 'things' yg mereka ga tau. Contohnya; gw yakin ga semua orang tau makna flibbertigibetts (wah udalah, pasti kalian langsung google kan). Macem2 respon orang
"kok lo bisa tau sih?"
"lo tau dari mana?"
"SUMPELO ANAK MORON MACEMLO TAU BEGINIAN KESAMBET APELO?"


Weirdo keempratd!!
4.Suka ngomong sendiri
Nah, kalo yg ini blon terbukti kebenarannya!ini hanyalah rekaan semata dari temen2 guah yang mencuba menipu diriku dengan bilang

"Nah kan ngomong sendiri lagi"

padahal suer..gw cuma bengong...ga ngomong sendiri gw


Weirdo kelima
5.Aku lihat, Aku datang, Aku makan
dengan bobod 50 kilo. gw rada kurus.tapi suer gw hobi banget makan, yang diselingi pula dengan hobi diare. Sayang sekali hobi makan gw terganggu dengan lidah gw yang gampang menjerit2 saat makanan terlampau panas(padahal bagi orang lain engga panas).

Soal kecepatan,Setau gw dari jaman gw sma, ga ada cewe yg sanggup ngalahin kecepetan gw makan. Cowo dulu ada, satu.beda satu detik pas diitung.

tapi sekarang gw pny resolusi: melanin makan dan ngurangin porsi.diganti dengan buah dan sayur. Biar sehat euy!

Weirdo keenem
6. Multiple personality disorder
Kalo lo tanya sama smua temen guah. I mean SEMUA. Lo ga bakal dapet satu jawaban.
"Dinar itu brisiknya minta dihajar!"
"Dee itu temennya banyak, soalnya rame!"
"D is a guy who loves being a loner"
"Dinar itu agak pendiem yah!"
"Dinar tuh males banget. BAngsa ini bisa mundur 100 taon kalo penghuninya macem dia semua!"
"Dee seneng banget mikirin puzzle,bhari2 ga kelar"
"Dinar itu cantik lembut dan baik hati" (nah gw setuju)

karena itulah sebetulnya angka 6 itu ga cukup buat keanehan yg guah punya. Lha gimana wong personality-nya buanyak:
7. pengucapan lafal 'karena' guah membuat gw diputus hubungan sebagai orang Indonesia
8. susah jatoh cinta, tapi kalo sampe jatoh, bisa nyungsep ga bangun2 lima taun
9..buanyak degh!!

karena itulah gw pusing sebenernya masalah dilanjutkan kepada 6 orang lainnya itu siapa ya???karena mnurut gw..org2 yg gw sebut bisa protes cuma di kasih jatah 6. But sumhoo,life goes on, it has to..

So, the six lucky winners are..

1. Sarah, my hi-skool bud. How's life in a 3rd world country, anyway?
2. Dee-wi lestari, novelmu dahulu laksana teh botol dingin di musim kemarow. Dingin, seger,dan aseli indonesia
3. Inzane, my roomie yg bhasil mempatenkan "ANJING-GOBLOK" sebagai kalimat yang wajib diucapkan saat main PS, baca komik, ataupun judi kartu, betapa sopannya hidupku tanpa dirimu(eh bikin blog dongk!)
4. My Mum, andaikan engkau ga gaptek Mum, mungkin Mum bisa ngeblog, fill in six weird things bout u so i can kno u better
5. Mike Shinoda, aku yakin diantara 6 weird things bout u, pasti ada kalimat kaya gini "I often dreamt bout this beautiful Indonesian girl named Dinar I should've married to"
6. Anda semua yang tertarik meneruskan rantai "six weird things about me" terkutuk ini. Karena saya yakin, ini bukan milik saya semata

Mom, Lanang, and I

Jadilah hari ini resmi jadi hari ketiga guah di Cikarang. Dan tebak apa yang guah lakuin...GW DAFTAR ULANG!
@#$@!!!!!!!!

kenapa guah bisa daftar ulang padahal jelas2 masa idup gw sebagai mahasiswa cuma perlu diisi ma thesis dan lapuran magang yg ampe hari ini blum klaar2 juge

It began on a beautiful day, when the birds sang beautiful song, the angels played some harps, and the rainbow suddenly popped out from nowhere...
Nyokap: "Din, kamu nanti cum laude kan?"

Pett!burungnya mati, angelsnya mencret, planginya tumbang

aduh bundaku tersayang, tidak mengertikah dirimu kalo untuk datang kuliah tiap pagipun, teman2ku harus menyeretku keluar kamar

I HATE GOIN TO SCHOOL

dan secara gw udah ada 2 biji nilai C, gw ga mungkin cumlaude
Dan akhirnya hari Senin kmarin, gw ngadep Mas Matnur buat minta dibikinin nilai gw jadi naikan dikit buat Sociology and Advertising biar gw bisa CUM LAUDE!

berikut percakapan gw dan mas matnur
GW:"Mas Matnur saya musti cumlaude negh, saya ngulang lah"
MTNR:"Dinar, lulus cumlaude itu syaratnya
1. Nilai diatas 3.5
Sampe kok mas, sampe. Secara nilai saya selalu diatas garis kemiskinan lewat dikit
2. Nilai untuk semua mata kuliah minimal B
Ya inilah alesan saya ngulang kuliah terkutuk ini mas
3. Lulus tepat waktu
InsyaAllah..doain dong
4. Tidak ada mata kuliah yang gagal
Iyeeee...ga ada kok
5. Tidak ada pengulangan subjek pelajaran
ye..ye...ye..lanjut. Ha?..Ha? HAAAA?!ULANG!ULANG YG BARUSAN!!
5. TIDAK ADA PENGULANGAN SUBJEK PELAJARAN

OHHH...

GW:"Jadi kalopun saya ngulang, dan dapet A.."
MTNR:"Kalo ngulang maksimal B"
GW:"Ya,ya,ya!Tapi, jadi kalo saya ngulang, biar ga ada yg C, saya ga bisa cumlaude?"
MTNR:"Tepat sekali"

YESSSS!!!YESS!!!YES!!
Brarti gw ga usa ngulang!!!gw ada alesan buat disampein ke nyokap kalo gw ga bisa cumlaude!

sampe akhirnya crita ini sampe ke kakak gw
"yawdalah Din, ngulang aja, seengganya ga ada C-nya"
tapi..tapi..
"biar mama ga kecewa-kecewa banget"

......

biar mama ga kecewa-kecewa banget

....

Pak Lanang, c u at campus, AGAIN

OST of the day

I want you to know you make me happy
I want you to know you make me sad
I want you to know you make me happy
You were the #@!! thing that i ever had...

(Freelance Hellraiser - Want you to know, dicincang dikit)

Ditengah2 bikin skrypsy-thesis, guah dengerin lagu ini brulang2. Why so? Dunno. Mungkin ini sontrek idup gw minggu ini. Gw kebayang videoklipnya ada cewe naik ayunan,

angin menerpa rambutnya yang baru kramas…

matanya menutup, merasakan badan yang berputar-putar..

diatas ayunan yang terdorong puting beliung..

dia membayangkan masalalu, masa sekarang, dan masa depan

JDARR!!

mejret ketimpa poon yang dipake buat gantung ayunan

Dian Sastro telpon guah?!!

jadilah di hari kmarin yg cerah gw ngantri tandatangannya Dian Sastro. Sebenernya si gw gengsi. Masa si secara harkat derajat martabat gw kalah ma dian sastro. Tapi pas liat sepanjang jarak antrian (kira2 50 meteran)...yakk emg cantik itu dian sastro, sialaaann...sialannnn), guah langsung hail hitler pake tangan lurus ke depan dan lagsg ANTRI

setelah beberapa menit antri (kok bisa?padahal antriannya 50 meteran?sabarrr..) gw nyampelah di depan Dian Sastro
(berikut adalah pcakapan Dian Satro dan saya)

DS:"Hai"
dee: Ya Allah ramah banget "Hai"
DS:"mau tandatangan dimana?"
dee:"disini aja," seraya mengutuk kenapa juga gw bawanya buku notes bersampul safe sex yg gua dapet dari MTV pas hari aids sedunia itu yg ada gambar cowo homonya di depan.
DS:"untuk siapa?" sambil tersenyum jijay mlihat buku notes homo itu
dee: "ditulisnya gini aja...Dinar, selamat skripsi ya"
DS:"Apa?!Skripsi?!kamu blum skripsi?!kamu harus ditelpon dulu kalo gtu!!"
dee:"Saya aja yg nelpon!" lumayan!dapet hpnya dian sastro

kringg..kring...(untuk ukuran artis ringtone hpnya minimalis banget ya)

"Haloo..Dian??"

pett...matek..

brengsek ternyata mimpi.

Mimpipun masih kebawa skripsi

AAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

Life is about making choices, is it?

Up to recently, I don't know how to drive my life.

I don't even kno to where I should go.

if life was all about making choices, I don't know what kind of options i have by now.